My ex I would find out was trying to self-medicate with heroin and then other drugs. 20 years later, she still struggles and drinks a ton of white wine each day. Sadly, her family has disowned her, which I think is absolutely terrible. I help her by listening but from time to time I have to block her on all social media when she becomes particularly nasty and obsessive. Nonetheless, I still have a soft spot for her. She hooked me with her flaws.